Silence During Date Nights

The babysitter is booked, dinner reservations have been made, and you are out on a date with your partner when suddenly you realize that you have nothing to talk about. Has the relationship died out? Is the only thing left to talk about the kids?

This is perfectly normal for couples to experience. After talking plenty when you first started dating, your game face has died out when you started becoming a couple. In fact, there are plenty of topics to talk about when going out on a date night with your spouse. You can talk about many different interests such as movies, books, politics, work, sex, and so on.

To improve communication in the relationship which might be a common problem if having difficulties conversing during dinner dates, then try an exercise that shows caring attributes from each other. Make a list of 8 things you’d like your partner to do once a day that shows genuine care and care only, not acts of love. Do about 5 each day and post the list somewhere like on the refrigerator or on your mirror in your bedroom. Try seeing who can be the first to finish the list but don’t make it into a serious rushed competition. Also, things like “Take me to Aruba” shouldn’t be included.

Talking about the kids should not be a negative topic to talk about either when out alone on a date. This is a strong attribute that the couple shares in common so talking about the kids can be encouraged. New ways to raise the children or even new ways to introduce a certain hobby or sport can also be a great topic of discussion.

You will find that over time, your relationship will experience many changes and growth and that your topics and interests will change as well. Don’t panic if your dating life isn’t as it was when it started, your conversations have just matured and grew.