Dating Abusive Men
Would you ever date a guy who abuses you? Of course not! What if he abused you on the first date, would you continue dating him? Probably not, right? Well, it is a surprise to see that in today’s world how many smart women are being fooled by abusive men and only finding out they are abusive after spending months with them. Abusive men can show many warning signs even before they raise a fist. Here are a few to look out for.
Watch out for the warning signs of an abusive man when initially dating. He probably will display impulsiveness and want to rush into a relationship and settle down as soon as you meet. If he is accusing you of flirting with every other guy you meet, such as a waiter, cashier, so on, then that is definitely a red flag. He might also think your friends and family don’t value you enough and might even text message too much.
Besides these warning signs, other potential abusive signs are that he is always keeping you up all night to the point where you are too tired, you are always explaining to your friends and family why you can’t meet them at a special occasion or even a simple night out, or things seem like they are always your fault. If you are a few minutes late, your anxiety soars knowing how upset he will be and you can’t do anything without him or without his permission. These could be signs that you are already in an abusive relationship.
If you get a lot of apology emails, texts, or make up gifts from him, that can also be a sign of an abusive man. Besides these warning signs, clear giveaways and clues to get out of there immediately are if you know that he had a violent relationship with an ex, he stalks you, he beats up a teammate or gets into fights a lot, he is cruel to animals, or the obvious, he has been physically violent to you.
If you see any of these warning signs, it might be best to be cautious or just avoid getting involved in a relationship with this kind of man. If you are in an abusive relationship already, then you should seek help to get out. Be weary and smart and keen on finding signs that will tell you if you are dating an abusive man.